Relationships are not great all the time, but there are things that you can do to avoid a disaster in yours. If you want to see that person for a long time, then you will have to follow a few tips on what not to do in your next relationship.
1. The Ex Factor
You will not be able to start a new relationship if you are still not over your last one. Ex's can ruin a really great thing, if you let them. Not to mention you should not be leading anyone on if you still have feelings for an ex. It starts the relationship off rocky, and it will not last.
2. The Big Three Words
Do not rush into saying I love you. Even if you feel it right away, it does not mean that you are ready to say it. You will probably scare them off, even if they feel the same way. Let the relationship blossom naturally. You will find the right time to say it, and it will be special. First, you need to keep them around long enough to say it.
3. Avoid Jealous Situations
We are all jealous at times. If it not over your bosses new car, then it is the fact that your boyfriend has an eye for blonds. It may make you really mad, but try to stay calm. Jealousy is something that you must work on. A little later in the relationship you can tell him it bothers you, but hey we are all human. It is not like he is asking for her number or anything. It shows you have confidence in yourself.
4. Never Cheat
This will surely end the relationship in its tracks. There are no excuses that can get you out of this one. If you are seriously trying to end a relationship then this will work, but avoid it if you want to pursue things.
5. Avoid Dwelling
By this I mean you cannot dwell on the past, or make assumptions about the future. Live in the present day, and do not take them for granted. If you are too worried about what might happen, or blame them for what has, you will never have the successful relationship that you are looking for in life. Live everyday like it is your last together; this will make you truly appreciate each other.
6. Friends Do Not Let Friends Run Relationships
Yes of course they are your friends, but that does not mean they have a say in what happens between you and your partner. Do not talk badly about their friends and hopefully they will have the same respect for you. You have to be careful not to lose your relationship with your friends as well. Relationships are time consumers, but your friends should always be able to rely on you.
7. The Change Issue
Never try to change who your partners is. That is why you fell in love with them, so why would you want to change them. It is not your responsibility to change them. If they do need to change, they have to do it on their own, so do not even try.
8. The Communication Key
Communication is the key to the success of any relationship. You must be prepared to tell them what is on your mind, and expect just that in return. If you do not, you will slowly notice the relationship start to deteriorate. Many people think communication is not a necessity, but it surely is if you want the relationship to last.
9. The Blame Game
Avoid blaming each other for problems that exist in your relationship. Really it is both of your problems, because you are a couple. You should be there for each other though the hard times, not constantly pointing fingers at each other. Any problems you have should be faced together. Why would you be together if you treat aspects of your life as a single person.
10. Do Not Feel It Anymore
Do not worry, this happens to a lot of people. However, you cannot lead them on any longer, or make them think that you are still in love. Sometimes when you are together, and you are strong in the beginning, then you will notice that the love will fade. Now of course do not think just because you are having a hard time, it does not mean that you are not in love anymore. Make sure your feelings are completely gone, before you make any rash decisions.
So there you have it. These 10 mistakes will leave your relationship empty, and eventually the relationship will end as a result. If you notice you are doing a few of these things, then try to change your behavior before it is too late.
M Farmer enjoys writing about online dating. Find more information about 100% free dating here.
Saturday, August 15, 2009
You may have been reading many articles because you are trying to know how to get a man to commit to you. I want to let you in on a little secret.
First of all, please do not read my article if you're trying to get an emotionally unavailable man to commit to you. I have no information to help you if you're in that position and I have no magic spells.
I wont help you commit a crime against your own heart. That would be plain wrong.
Emotionally unavailable men tend to take women on a fairy horse ride and leave them by the side of the road pouting, nagging, whining, jaded and complaining because these women feel as if they are owed.
If you're dating a potential Mr. Right who happens to be a good catch because he really is - read further.
Men marry because of a FEELING they have based on the behavior pattern of the woman they are with. When a woman stirs a magical feeling inside a man, he feels literally addicted to her.
Her behavior pattern is based on her personality traits. The thing about her that makes her unique. Although we are all unique, there are certain traits that are unique to women who get men to marry them.
The biggest secret that women tend to overlook that will instantly get them in the door of a man's heart is being personally happy.
This should not be taken lightly.
I mean, a place within you that a man cannot touch. In other words, he does not have the power to make you unhappy based on his behavior. He may disappoint you, but if you are truly happy, no one and no man can touch this place in you.
If you exude this trait, you will make him explode!
If you get anything from this article today, get that you must be a beaming ray of sunshine before you can warm a plant and help it grow. Men only marry women who can make them grow.
First of all, please do not read my article if you're trying to get an emotionally unavailable man to commit to you. I have no information to help you if you're in that position and I have no magic spells.
I wont help you commit a crime against your own heart. That would be plain wrong.
Emotionally unavailable men tend to take women on a fairy horse ride and leave them by the side of the road pouting, nagging, whining, jaded and complaining because these women feel as if they are owed.
If you're dating a potential Mr. Right who happens to be a good catch because he really is - read further.
Men marry because of a FEELING they have based on the behavior pattern of the woman they are with. When a woman stirs a magical feeling inside a man, he feels literally addicted to her.
Her behavior pattern is based on her personality traits. The thing about her that makes her unique. Although we are all unique, there are certain traits that are unique to women who get men to marry them.
The biggest secret that women tend to overlook that will instantly get them in the door of a man's heart is being personally happy.
This should not be taken lightly.
I mean, a place within you that a man cannot touch. In other words, he does not have the power to make you unhappy based on his behavior. He may disappoint you, but if you are truly happy, no one and no man can touch this place in you.
If you exude this trait, you will make him explode!
If you get anything from this article today, get that you must be a beaming ray of sunshine before you can warm a plant and help it grow. Men only marry women who can make them grow.
BE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE
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Decide What it is You Want From Your Life - And Go For It! by Sofia HoganMany, if not most people go through life wishing that their life could be different. When they stop and look around them, there are images of people in the media or in their own industries which have succeeded in developing fabulous lifestyles, wonderful relationships and deep spiritual growth. We all see the lives of a small percentage of people on the planet through the media and think "why am I not so lucky?"
Taking Risks in Business and Life - A Parable by Jeff HaslettA parable about the true value of taking risks. Is it true that the higher the risk, the higher the reward? Can we believe the stories we hear about people who took big risks?
Are We Still Driven by the Fulfillment of Our Basic Survival Needs? by Hana RubinstejnovaNot having to spend our days working in the fields to supply our dinner table with food goes a long way. Nowadays, we have more food that we can ever consume available to us without the need to stretch a muscle.
What Are the Long Term Negative Psychological Effects to Being a Winner? by Lance WinslowDespite what some people would have you believe, being at the top of the food chain in various endeavors of human life and society does not put anyone at risk of psychological harm. Today, we are teaching our kids that it is more important to be subservient to authority, and to collaborate and work together, and that everyone is equal in every way and thus, everyone gets a certificate for participation. From this one might surmise that being a winner or highly successful over the achievement of your peers is not a good thing, and that with that success there can be psychological harm to the individual and the group below them.
Risking the Unfamiliar - How to Step Out of the Safety of Your Comfort Zone and Say 'Maybe I Could!' by Susanne SpencerEntering unfamiliar territory is not always easy, but it has the potential to be exciting and enlightening. There are so many new discoveries to be made. Usually, what attracts us in the first place is the desire or the need to satisfy our curiosity, to answer the question 'What if... ?' This is the voice of your intuition telling you that maybe the time is right.
TV Star, Magazine Mogul, Philanthropist, and Billionaire - What Motivates Oprah? by Carol M BarrettHave you ever watched the Oprah Winfrey show and wondered what motivates her to do the things she does? This is a woman who holds down more jobs than most of us could envision ourselves doing in a lifetime. In addition to this, she gives of herself in philanthropic works that span the globe. It is mind-boggling.
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Unbelievably the Fastest and Simplest Steps to Making Changes - Discover Happiness Again! by Patty OkawaAre your habits and beliefs pulling you down? Is your inner voice shouting words of hopelessness and despair? Would you like to improve your life?
Desire - Make a Plan and Take Action by Renald CroesYou can have the things you want in life, if you set your mind on them and develop a plan to achieve your dreams. It's true, It's so true. These words contain the secret to limitless success and endless streams of cash, yet unfortunately most will go through this life never even scratching the surface in terms of what they could be experiencing.
Fools Jump In? Let's Think About That One by Grant CriddleSometimes people simply miss the clues that signal a coming change. It happens. Change can be upon us in an instant. More often than that though, people just find reasons to wait, to delay, to stall, to explain why it would be foolish to JUMP IN!
Do You Have Double Vision? by James CarnaghiA lot of people walk through life with what I call mental double vision, bumping along and hoping to arrive somewhere, someday. The fact is that you can't accidentally accomplish your goals. It is impossible to accidentally become great, accidentally lose weight, or accidentally start that business. These things have to be done on purpose with a single vision in mind.
What the Eiffel Tower Teaches Us About Process by Beth BuelowThe construction of the Eiffel Tower is a powerful reminder about the value of process and the time it takes to create something of lasting significance. In redecorating my home office, I began looking for images for the walls that would inspire and motivate me.
Success is a Matter of Determination by Belsheba NyabwaIt is the desire of many to achieve success but a determined person is never satisfied until he gets what he is after. Determination is what motivates one to strive and work hard towards success; therefore without it one tends to walk blindly and without purpose.
From Stealing Your Seventh Step to Success in Your Home-Based Business by Shirland CarringtonYour telephone feels like a hundred pounds when you pick it up to call your leads. You made the decision to be a success in your home-based business, yet you procrastinate in making those phone calls.
6 Reasons Why People Procrastinate and Never Become Successful in Life and Business by Shirland CarringtonProcrastination renders your desire to succeed in your life and business ineffective. When you procrastinate, it may be very painful. The pain of discipline weighs ounces while the pain of regret weight pounds. The discipline to overcome procrastination is sometimes an easier escape for people than to actual commit to success. There are six main reasons why people procrastinate.
Everyone Wants Something by Chetan WaliaHow does one develop ambition when she isn't ambitious? How can I motivate myself, I don't feel it? How to develop initiative or action when it's not happening automatically? How to set goals, I don't have them? I don't want to achieve anything special in life (though I never said 'special achievement' is inherent), I just want to live, why are you provoking me, there isn't anything?
What Does the Tel Aviv Foundation Do? by Billings FarnsworthThis article will describe the mission of the Tel Aviv Foundation. It's trying to make life better for the people living in Israel by supporting their community in many different areas.
Combat Feeling Overwhelmed - 4 Simple Steps to Focus and Move Forward by Hilary HarwellFour simple strategies for coping with feelings of overwhelm are highlighted in this article. Learn to clarify your top priority, focus your efforts and take small steps towards your big picture goal.
Self Improvement in General Knowledge by Lance WinslowThere are many ways you can improve your life and there are many people who will tell you how to do it. They sell books and tapes, and CDs. They have plans, strategies and techniques, which will help you self improve, if you will listen to what they say and follow their special strategic plans.
Setting and Achieving Goals is Like Solving a Jigsaw Puzzle by LaShae DorseyGoals you would like to achieve or problems you would like to solve are really like puzzles. You know what you want the outcome to look like, just like looking at the picture on the box tells you where the center, corners and border pieces of the puzzle will all end up, after the puzzle is together. But what if you don't have the box, how can you put the puzzle together or set and achieve your goals then?
The Emergence of Wisdom by Ian E McDermottFrom our own experience we know some people are wiser than others. Also that a few organizations show wisdom in the systems they put in place and the way they work. Some people are experts but that doesn't make them wise. Wisdom is not the same as expertise or even mastery.
Having the Right Mindset For Success in Business and Personal Growth by Michael Beal"Until thought is linked with purpose, there is no intelligent accomplishment." We fear the things in life and business that were not certain about. We fear things in our life that we don't have clear visions of.
The Essence of Competition by Bar FameroWhen Jamaican sprint star Usain Bolt crossed the finish line in the 100 meter run at the 2008 Reebok Grand Prix at Randall Island in New York clocking at 9.74 seconds, he set a World Record. For Bolt and his supporters, it was an absolutely rare moment of jubilation.
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